Our heart is not saying anything. It only makes two sounds, “lub, dub”. It’s primary function is making sure it gets enough blood flow throughout the body. This idea that something comes from the heart, something comes from the brain is metaphoric. But a whole lot of people are taking it literally.
Joke: So once a very celebrated scientist went to a dinner party. He wasn’t looking very well-dressed or fancy, he looked ordinary. The lady sitting next to him didn’t pay much attention to him. She didn’t know who he is. But after some time, just to be polite, to make a conversation, the girl asked him “May I know what do you do?” He said, “I am studying science”. She “ Oh! I finished that in 10th class”.
Something is well-engineered meaning that it’s functioning the way we want. A tree is fantastic engineering, a mountain is fantastic engineering, even insects are fantastic engineering. Something that stood there for a million years must be well-engineered, right? Human body is the most sophisticated piece of engineering. Because it’s the most sophisticated piece of engineering, it needs a certain level of attention; otherwise you don’t figure it. But did you read the user manual? Or is there a user manual? Well, isn’t it true that some athletes can use their body better than others? So aren’t they following a user manual? Maybe the user manual isn’t attached to you from the birth but the indication is there to show how to use it. And you read a user manual in the first three days of buying rather than three years later when you’re throwing off the product.
Brain is a new equipment you got in the evolutionary process. Cut open any ordinary animal, you’ll find most organs humans have like liver, kidney, heart, etc. But our brain is what distinguishes us from them. This level of cerebral development happened more recently compared to the other organs we have. Because it’s more recent, most people don’t know how to use it; that’s why the user's manual is important.
Your heart doesn’t beat for a girl because it's telling something; rather, it beats because it’s compensating for the other excitements you start to have. It beats faster to make sure that blood flows smoothly where the excitements lead it to be. The same activity happens when you run up a staircase or fear something, your heart beats faster than usual. It doesn’t mean it’s saying something. So your heart is not saying anything, it is just making sure every part of your body gets the nourishment of blood flow.
It’s your brain speaking in different tongues. If your native language is something and you speak two or three languages, you get different thoughts in different languages and confuse it with heart saying this or that.
There is thought and there is emotion. They are two different things. When you “think” of someone as wonderful, your emotions become sweet to her. When you “think” of her as horrible, your emotions become nasty towards her. You cannot think someone sweet and have nasty emotions towards her. Now today I thought someone wonderful, and they do something nasty tomorrow, your thoughts will quickly take positions to what to think about her. But your emotions are a little slower. Though thoughts change in a matter of seconds, emotions can’t keep up with that pace. So in that period getting our emotions up to the pace of thinking, you struggle. But after some time, emotions catch up and you start to think yeah she has done something nasty and I should be nasty to her, too.
Isn’t your life precious? So when you decide to invest it in something, think about it, in 20 years, will it still mean a lot to me? Will I be proud of it or ashamed of it in 20 years? Will I be proud of it in 50 years that I invested my time into this? Will I be proud of spending my time and effort chasing girls? Think about it then spend time on things you’ll be proud of. Because if you do things that you’ll be ashamed of, you’ll turn against yourself. If you turn against anyone you can leave them and go somewhere else, but if you turn against yourself, you can’t leave yourself--that makes you suffer, you’ll have to leave with it forever. It doesn’t matter what people say, everybody has different opinions. Some things will get you money, some things will get you comfort, that is not the point. “Will it give you a life?” is the question you should ask.
Making a living is not a hard task with this big brain. Ants, insects, and other animals also make a living. Making a life out of it is the goal. Earning your food is not an issue, but when you wanna live like someone else, that’s an endless problem. “I want to live” is not a problem, “I want to live like you” is a problem. So if you consider your life as precious, you must make a wonderful life out of this. And whatever opens up to that direction, that is the thing you should do. But when anyone says, “I am going to America”, “I am going to a Government job”, or anything, you get into peer pressure. So one thing you should do before you make any big decisions in life is get rid of all the peers pressures--professors, parents, everybody. Just spend three days to one week by yourself. Look at it what it is that you really want to do, not under pressure from other people. What is this “life” want to do? Do that. It doesn’t matter what other people think about it.